I was recently attending a party when one of the other guests learned that I was a coach. Without much hesitation or coaxing and after a quick introduction, this gentleman went on to share with me the fact that his 30 year old daughter has been struggling with her career and most aspects of her life. At the conclusion of his telling of her story, he then asked if I could take her on as a client.
I noted that I would love to help, but it’s the one with the pain that must take the action. In other words, as well meaning as her father was I could not be of any help until his daughter recognized that she is in “pain” and wants to do something about it. Until then, no amount of pushing (by parents, friends or others) or hoping is going to have any meaningful impact.
Keep that in mind when seeking to help others.